Can anyone give advice on how to deal with teenage daughter with symtoms of depression and low self essteem?

She also has a physical disabled called hyper-phosphates-anmeiarickets which has left her leg browed inward, she has insercure feeling about her appearance because of this. She has being crying alot and the thought of school makes it worst.Can anyone give advice on how to deal with teenage daughter with symtoms of depression and low self essteem?
I am also disabled and you can sometimes feel so scared that people are going to be mean that you daren't leave the house.I can understand your daughter feel self concious but the only way through it is to try and boost her self confidence. Tell her that she beautiful and special I've learnt that there are people out there with no legs or arms so am not as bad. I think accepting who you are comes with age so I feel over time she will be able to cope better with the way she looks. Get her to learn to love what she has got going for her nice eyes, long hair, great skin and all the rest will melt in the back ground I promise.


Hope this can help


It does get betterCan anyone give advice on how to deal with teenage daughter with symtoms of depression and low self essteem?
As a 14 year-old, I was depressed and had low self-esteem. Part of it is just the nature of teenage years. However, you can help. My mom tried to take me to several counselors. In my opinion, this was a terrible idea. It made me feel like there WAS something wrong with me and just made the problems worse. Spend lots of girl time with her. Mom and daughter outings were the best! We talked about everything and later when my friends were drinking etc in high school, I didn't feel the need to bc my mom and I had that special bond. Do her make-up. Play with her hair. Tell her stories you would tell a girlfriend about when you were her age- just don't be condescending. All these things will help.


Also make sure she has several extra-curriculars that she can excel at. Even if she doesn't have self-confidence over all, these experiences with success will allow her to build on her self-image over her teenage years.


Also, I am not sure if this is a possibility with her physical disabilities, but look into the People to People Student Ambassador Program. This more than anything else in my teen years, gave me a sense of myself and the confidence that I could take care of myself (while still in a supervised, safe environment).


Good luck!
I would advise you to go and get her counselling. I have a 13 year old who suffered depression and low self esteem but that was because of bullying in junior school , and trying to deal with having an autistic brother. I felt helpless but I went and saw my doctor and he referred her to a child psychologist unit and they did wonders with her. Also it might be worth talking to her school about your concerns , and they might be able to sort out counselling for her as well. I have done that with my daughters high school as she began to get depressed again because of problems we are having with her brother and they have been fantastic in getting her a school counsellor who she sees once a week and it has helped enormously. Good luck, my thoughts are with you and your daughter.
Counseling is not the answer! Most teens that suffer from depression hate sympathy, which most people will do, sympathize. Maybe she ask the school if it is possible for her to skip school for a few days and just get someone to send her work to her. Maybe you should find someone in your area with the same disability and let them talk to her since they more then likely will know how she feels. Talk to her in a non sympathetic way. See why she is so low on herself. No one is perfect. Maybe she is getting teased. But it is probably best you leave that matter alone. it will only embarass her more. i dont really know. Truthfully she's just going to have to deal with it.
Help her by letting her homeschool. The homeschooling communities are much more open and friendly toward people with disabilities. She could meet new friends and deal with families rather than the age segregated false environment of public school. Many homeschoolers adopt children with disabilities, so she would see a different type of peerage. What I mean is this: In homeschooling you'll see families loving eachother %26amp; cooperating - rather than siblings hostile to one another. Many children just blossom after they come out of those stressful public schools.
Hmmm... she sounds like a typical teenager to me.





I realise she has a deformity, but whether it is a bowed leg or a spotty forehead girls can become insecure and obsessed by it.





If it was my daughter, i'd play it down. Don't encourage the thoughts that she is different or has something to be upset about... just support her, make a joke about life and get on with it!





Maybe encourage her to have friends round for dinner and sleepovers or go to the cinema - all she needs is to feel like she has friends.
ask her what she wishes could be done and see what you can do (not just about her legs, but about anything that would make her feel better) for example, take her out for a girls day, buy her some new clothes and take her to clinque or somewhere where they can show her how to put on makeup and buy her some. my mom did that for me and i felt SOO much better about myself when i was in high school. knowing i had nice makeup (not caked on or anything but usally make up helps bring out your beauty even more) and i knew how to put it on correctly. yeah this will cost some money, if you dont have a lot, try to save up. your daughter is definately worth it. maybe try to find someone with the same disability for her to have someone to talk to and be friends with that is in the same situation as she is. good luck with this
every teeanager has self asteem issues. what you need to do if she has been diagnosed by a doctor as having depression is get her on anti-depressants right away. they really help. what does she like to do? is there a creative outlet for her to release her anxiety? just talk to your daughter and reassure her that she is beautiful. do things with her if she doesn't have many friends. let her know how fun and loved she is.
As a previous depressed and suicidal teen, all i can say is never just let her sit alone. do everything you can to get her out of the house. self essteem is hard. try taking her to get a manicure or pedicure. talk to her. let her know you care, and let her know that you are going to be there for her when ever she needs you.
i know how you feel i also have a teenage daughter with the same symptoms and what i do is talke to her take her with me to the park and have a one to one talk about how she feels what one her mind i also let her know that i was also young my self too and its better when you let someone know how you feel dont let it in let it out and if she dont want me to know then i will get you help its your choice and if you need time im here for you i love you your important to me i will always be here for you count on me your mom.
The first thing you need to tell her is that even though she has a physical problem doesn't mean that she is ugly nor special. I would have her talk with her doctor and he can get her to therepy. Sometimes dealing with issues like this is not in our hands anymore. All I can say is that you need to be there for her and show her more and more love. Good Luck!!
i think she needs more of your attention care and support .Dont ignore her she feel insecure.Tell her that you love her and she is beautiful dont care about people outside the world.Spend time with her bring her out to a movie or mall just you and her i guess she will love it and she will feel proud that as her mother you are there with her.God Bless.
i went through a bad stage of it wen i was in high school best thing is not to pressure her and to reassure like wen she has her hair different comment in a csual way about how nice it is things like that.Let her know u are here for her wen she fels ready to talk but dont push her as she will clam up, if u let let her come to u she will in time do things with her that u know she enjoys doin shoppin walks out etc she may open up if she is doin somethin she likes
My heart goes out to her and you, I've found the Paul McKenna CD very helpful (see link), some assertive training may also help.
Take her to a make over session which gives a photo shoot and ask them to give her clothing tips as well. Lots of ttention an bonding sessions. Take each day as it comes, no pressure just be there for her, she will get through it
Counselling...she needs to be able to talk to someone objective and who is trained to help her build up her self esteem and get her out of her depression by talking and even prescription meds if necessary.
Go see a marriage and family therapist. Take her and your entire family.
Well I feel sorry for her, I wish I could be there, I'd make everything better.





Be Strong !





Jordan
Take her to a psycholagist.
just let her by herself and let her calm down
go over to the adolescent section and see if anybody will be willing to be her online friend

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What are all the types of doctors that a teenage girl should see ?

Like try to give me a major list of all the doctors that a teenage girl should have as growing up into a young adult as if theres any other general physical checkups to a maind doctor list as well as any others with all the typess of body members and parts and what would they be for and require to see if you answer i wil rate and add you no stupid answers pretty please thanksWhat are all the types of doctors that a teenage girl should see ?
-gynecologists, depending on if you are sexually active


-dentists


-normal physicians who check up on your lungs and stuff.





And if you have a condition such as scoliosis, you'll need to see different doctors to take x-rays or something. Specialized doctors may be needed depending on your health.

What type of clothing do girls consider hot on teenage males.?

Im a guy whose looking for clothes and dont know what really in right now. any suggestions on what attracts the girls. something that is really kinda sexy and cool?. im 16.What type of clothing do girls consider hot on teenage males.?
Well Paul, I suggest you wear converse shoes (real chuck taylor's, not the cheap remakes), wear adidas socks (brown), loose fitting jeans (hollister, no butt crack showing!), nice t-shirt (casual), and maybe spike your hair in the front ( see a picture of Taylor Lautner) and by the way...ABSOLUTELY NO PEACH FUZZ above the mouth....clean shave. Plus get some refreshing scented deoderant or aftershave. Now you should be good to strut the streets!What type of clothing do girls consider hot on teenage males.?
PAC SUN!!!!!


so f-ing hot and most girls like that look cause its not cheap and it doesnt look emo.


i prefer scence guys who wear hot topic, glamour kills, and stuff like that, but you would probably lookj poser so go for the in between look. all the guys at my school who used to wear abercrombie and holister wear famous and hurley from pac sun now.


good luck being sazzy.
well, everyone has their own opinion, but my personal preference would be something like skater-ish.


like, straight leg, dark wash jeans.


converse, vans, dc's, or sometype of skate shoes.


graphic tee's.


and a cool fitted hat.


hope i helped!
why dont you be yourself?


everyones telling you to go places.


just effing shop like you regularly would.


but if you have to be unoriginal.


got to hot topic. rue 21.
anything that fits and doesn't have ugly patterns.





wearing baggy **** is ugly, man. slimfit jeans are wear its at if you don't want to sell your soul with skinnies.

How long does teenage puberty last?

I'm just curious how long teenage puberty last. I'm 14 and it seems my hormones are going crazy. How long will adolescents or puberty last? Is there any calming point with puberty?How long does teenage puberty last?
LOL





Yea I know puberty seems like one big horror movie filled with demon hormones, massive erect monstors and all sorts of things shooting out. But the reality is it can be a fun time too since you don;t have to be all hung up about all the stuff that adults get weird about. So, relax and let nature take it's course, masturbate to your heart's content, get erect when you do and don;t allow yourself to feel at all embarassed or weird or anything negative. All too soon it will end and you will be an adult and then you will suffer the dilemnas of that stage of life where you are not free to drop your pants in the cafeteria and show off your underwear.





So, let it all hang out and enjoy every second of being a hormone crazed teen and don't let anyone tame you.How long does teenage puberty last?
for the rest of your life
Till About 18
Well it all depends. Everybody is different and goes through puberty at different times. You might ask your doctor. I'm sure he/she will tell you the same thing. Don't worry. Everybody goes through it. There's nothing to worry about!
Until it is over.
You still have it coming for about 2 years. puberty usually lasts from 12-16. Tryst me you'll survive. Im 14 and im going through the same crazy stuff. It sucks but it all ends soon for us buddy. Survival to the fittest!

Are spots on the bottom of my cheeks just teenage spots?

Sorta to the left and right of my chin, they've only just sprung up im guessing there just teenage spots?Are spots on the bottom of my cheeks just teenage spots?
Your probably right. That happened to me when I was like.. 4 or so? But just in case..





Vitiligo is a skin disease that causes loss of pigment in the first layer of your skin, the epidermis. Google it and look at the images.Are spots on the bottom of my cheeks just teenage spots?
TRY PROACTIVE IT WORKS GREAT FOR ME, ALSO YOU CAN TRY COCO BUTTER.
What kind of spots? like a faded color of your skin tone.





Had this problem when I was young myself. Put on lotion on your face regularly. It went away in a couple of days.

Can anyone give advice on how to deal with teenage daughter with symtoms of depression and low self essteem?

She also has a physical disabled called hyper-phosphates-anmeiarickets which has left her leg browed inward, she has insercure feeling about her appearance because of this. She has being crying alot and the thought of school makes it worst.Can anyone give advice on how to deal with teenage daughter with symtoms of depression and low self essteem?
1) Love - continue to be the rock for her.





2) Don't judge her emotions or tell her they are ';wrong'; - emotions just are.





3) Let her know her emotions are valid. Ask her how she is feeling and then when she answers, acknowledge the facts of the emotion without adding your own commentary.





4) HONESTY - Be honest with her about what you feel and think. Let her know it is you opinion, and she does not have to agree with it, but it is your honesty talking. For example, if she starts to bash herself, you can be honest with a comment such s ';When I hear you say that, my heart breaks. I love you deeply and I feel lost because I don't know how I can help you.';





Statements like this are more powerful than retorical questions like ';How am I supposed to help you?';





5) Support. Look into finding on-line support groups for others with the same problems. They also have good moderated groups for teens these days. I suggest an adult first present themselves as the teen to a group to judge the climate of the chat or email. Once that is verified, you can let the group know the situation and introduce your daughter.





Best of luck !!!!Can anyone give advice on how to deal with teenage daughter with symtoms of depression and low self essteem?
aww


is she ok?


well i have alot of girlfriends as in friends who are girls


and alot of them are that age when they are so insecure and have low self esteem (around 13-16)


and we know we would be nothing more than frieds


so when they are feeling down i say something like ';hello smiler, your hairs nice today or your makeup is nice';


something like that


i suggest that you always give your daughter compliments and maybe find her a friend like me


lol


it must also be hard for her with her physical disabily


and im going to be honest alot of the boys in my class are very yano shallow and are like eww shes ugly but that shouldnt annoy her i know personally i dont just go for looks i like a girl with a sense of humour and that can have fun


anywayzzz im sure shes beautiful in her own


even if its not outside but thats not everything


tell her i said hi
i really feel for your daughter. i know it tough in school especially if you feel different. i know this sounds very superfisial but if you can help her to feel beautiful then this would help alot. help her to keep up with fashion, encourage interaction with friends eg sleepovers etc, be there when she is at her lowest, be non judgemental about anything she is going though. be her friend, laugh with her and make sure she knows that whatever happens you are always there.


maybe help her find a hobbie she likes. this will help to focus her attention on other things. maybe a creative, expressive hobbie eg singing or painting may help her to get her feelings out. i sing and paint and painting is very theraputic. hope this helps and i hope your daughter gets through this. oh and give her stuff to look forward to. when times are tough it helps to have little events to look forward to. it will encourage her to get on with everyday life. x
She probably dosn't have friends either at least real true friends to hang out with and stuff. Its comon for teens to freak out about evrything like how they look if they have acne ..how tall they r etc If i were you i would see if teh disability could be fixed some how liek with a surgery or something.. i would ask her directly if she is depressed and i would aske her doctor who knowsa bout her disability if tehy could recommend a place for her to hang out with ppl with teh saem illness or a place liek a counselor or something who can help her gain confidence! Sometimes depression liek feelings are just a phase but usually they arn't ..it depends. R kids picking on her at school?? Complement her ask her if you can do something foe her and if its resonable do it, tell her she is beautiful, tell her you love her. Compliment her but make it natural and not all fake sounding be genuine about it.
Would your daughter (or you) like to talk to someone? Someone she doesn't know and who will listen in strict confidence.


I don't know where you are but there is a well-known charity called Samaritans. They have a website where contact information (email address and phone numbers, etc) is freely available. It is easy to find it on Yahoo!


I hope things work out for you all.
you have to find somewere that there is other people like her, or in the same situation as her, she probably feels like she is the only one, and feels alone. you have to show her that there is more to life and that there are a lot more people in her situation, meeting other people like herself will really help her.





try finding a online forum, and see if there are any meetings or support groups in you area.
Your local council will have counselling help,or your doctor will put you onto someone.She needs proffesional help under supervision.The samaritans also have contacts.http:/www.sort-out-stress.co.uk or http:/www.livinglifetothefull.com or http:/www.mind.org.uk


Good luck
She might be able to claim counselling via the NHS.





Also some form of physical exercise is normally very good for depression- perhaps a nearly morning swimming session. Those time slots are normally taken up by older people who will be nowhere near as judgemental as people of her own age.
Wish I could.


Spend some time with her without talking about it. Have some fun. Speak to the school and ask them how she is getting on there and ask for their advice.


Good luck.

How do I go about finding a really hip, young, cool mental health councillor for my teenage daughter without?

scheduling 1,000 appts. to check each Dr. out? Is there a referral hotline somewhere or a network where I can check out each Drs. specialties?How do I go about finding a really hip, young, cool mental health councillor for my teenage daughter without?
You can ask your daughter's primary care physician, she should have a list of doctors to tell you about. You can also check with her school counselors, and if you know of any of her friends in counseling, you could talk to their parents. You still may have to check out a few doctors before you find the right one, though.How do I go about finding a really hip, young, cool mental health councillor for my teenage daughter without?
I would first check with her school for referrals. You may also be able to ask the counselor him/herself if they have references from patients.





In my experience with my son, you may have to make several appointments with a few counselors to see if they 'click'. Also, keep in mind that if she isn't willing to go, she may not click with any of them, unfortunately. I found his through many searches, referals and a lot of heartache, but I am able to say I am very proud of my son today. He has come a long way. Having no idea what your challenges are at this point, the only real advice I can give you from one mom's heart to another is hang in there and don't give up.





Good luck Comet xoxoxo
Try LDS Family Services.





I know that they have many ';really hip, young, cool mental health counselors'; there. Including me :)
Find a large counseling group in your area and call them. They can help you find who you are looking for within their group. Worked beautifully for my daughter.... she loves her counselor.
try


http://www.onlinecounsellingservice.co.u鈥?/a>

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