Can anyone give advice on how to deal with teenage daughter with symtoms of depression and low self essteem?

She also has a physical disabled called hyper-phosphates-anmeiarickets which has left her leg browed inward, she has insercure feeling about her appearance because of this. She has being crying alot and the thought of school makes it worst.Can anyone give advice on how to deal with teenage daughter with symtoms of depression and low self essteem?
1) Love - continue to be the rock for her.





2) Don't judge her emotions or tell her they are ';wrong'; - emotions just are.





3) Let her know her emotions are valid. Ask her how she is feeling and then when she answers, acknowledge the facts of the emotion without adding your own commentary.





4) HONESTY - Be honest with her about what you feel and think. Let her know it is you opinion, and she does not have to agree with it, but it is your honesty talking. For example, if she starts to bash herself, you can be honest with a comment such s ';When I hear you say that, my heart breaks. I love you deeply and I feel lost because I don't know how I can help you.';





Statements like this are more powerful than retorical questions like ';How am I supposed to help you?';





5) Support. Look into finding on-line support groups for others with the same problems. They also have good moderated groups for teens these days. I suggest an adult first present themselves as the teen to a group to judge the climate of the chat or email. Once that is verified, you can let the group know the situation and introduce your daughter.





Best of luck !!!!Can anyone give advice on how to deal with teenage daughter with symtoms of depression and low self essteem?
aww


is she ok?


well i have alot of girlfriends as in friends who are girls


and alot of them are that age when they are so insecure and have low self esteem (around 13-16)


and we know we would be nothing more than frieds


so when they are feeling down i say something like ';hello smiler, your hairs nice today or your makeup is nice';


something like that


i suggest that you always give your daughter compliments and maybe find her a friend like me


lol


it must also be hard for her with her physical disabily


and im going to be honest alot of the boys in my class are very yano shallow and are like eww shes ugly but that shouldnt annoy her i know personally i dont just go for looks i like a girl with a sense of humour and that can have fun


anywayzzz im sure shes beautiful in her own


even if its not outside but thats not everything


tell her i said hi
i really feel for your daughter. i know it tough in school especially if you feel different. i know this sounds very superfisial but if you can help her to feel beautiful then this would help alot. help her to keep up with fashion, encourage interaction with friends eg sleepovers etc, be there when she is at her lowest, be non judgemental about anything she is going though. be her friend, laugh with her and make sure she knows that whatever happens you are always there.


maybe help her find a hobbie she likes. this will help to focus her attention on other things. maybe a creative, expressive hobbie eg singing or painting may help her to get her feelings out. i sing and paint and painting is very theraputic. hope this helps and i hope your daughter gets through this. oh and give her stuff to look forward to. when times are tough it helps to have little events to look forward to. it will encourage her to get on with everyday life. x
She probably dosn't have friends either at least real true friends to hang out with and stuff. Its comon for teens to freak out about evrything like how they look if they have acne ..how tall they r etc If i were you i would see if teh disability could be fixed some how liek with a surgery or something.. i would ask her directly if she is depressed and i would aske her doctor who knowsa bout her disability if tehy could recommend a place for her to hang out with ppl with teh saem illness or a place liek a counselor or something who can help her gain confidence! Sometimes depression liek feelings are just a phase but usually they arn't ..it depends. R kids picking on her at school?? Complement her ask her if you can do something foe her and if its resonable do it, tell her she is beautiful, tell her you love her. Compliment her but make it natural and not all fake sounding be genuine about it.
Would your daughter (or you) like to talk to someone? Someone she doesn't know and who will listen in strict confidence.


I don't know where you are but there is a well-known charity called Samaritans. They have a website where contact information (email address and phone numbers, etc) is freely available. It is easy to find it on Yahoo!


I hope things work out for you all.
you have to find somewere that there is other people like her, or in the same situation as her, she probably feels like she is the only one, and feels alone. you have to show her that there is more to life and that there are a lot more people in her situation, meeting other people like herself will really help her.





try finding a online forum, and see if there are any meetings or support groups in you area.
Your local council will have counselling help,or your doctor will put you onto someone.She needs proffesional help under supervision.The samaritans also have contacts.http:/www.sort-out-stress.co.uk or http:/www.livinglifetothefull.com or http:/www.mind.org.uk


Good luck
She might be able to claim counselling via the NHS.





Also some form of physical exercise is normally very good for depression- perhaps a nearly morning swimming session. Those time slots are normally taken up by older people who will be nowhere near as judgemental as people of her own age.
Wish I could.


Spend some time with her without talking about it. Have some fun. Speak to the school and ask them how she is getting on there and ask for their advice.


Good luck.